I think for many of us we are our biggest Critic! When things go a wry in our lives, a workout does not go according to planned, or our job gives us a task that is a little out of comfort zone …. The first person we criticize is us!
In our lives it’s “why couldn’t you be better”, or “why did you make that mistake” etc…
In our workouts its “Why didn’t you push harder?”, “Why didn’t you do more weight?” … etc….
In our Jobs it’s “why couldn’t I be more successful”, “Why couldn’t I be smarter” etc…
In all of these examples the number one person we are putting down most is us, when in all actuality you should be the one putting yourself down the least!!!
I have lived most of my life as a perfectionist, nothing was ever good enough, I was never fit enough, smart enough, pretty enough, etc… I would beat myself up so badly that I didn’t see any redeeming qualities in myself; and for what???
We have plenty of people in the world who are going to put us down or not appreciate who we are ….
So why do we continue to not believe in ourselves?
When I met my husband in college, I was always so impressed that he was never phased by anything or anyone. Someone would tell him something negative and it didn’t seem to bother him in any way. He had the confidence that I had always strived for; he was his biggest cheerleader.
Now don’t be mistaken, he was very humble, but he believed in himself! He used to always tell me I am able to love you so much because I love myself enough….I never really understood the “true” meaning of this to years down the line!
I would let people walk all over me, or take jobs or salaries that I knew I was way over qualified for, but that is what I believed I deserved!
It took having a community of 200 plus positive, encouraging, motivating people believing in me first, that gave me the ability to finally believe in myself!
Once I began believing in myself my whole life changed in such a positive way! I became a proud of what I was doing, confident in the person I was, and loving of myself. I was able to help all of our members get to their goals, because I was no longer so self consumed! I began believing in these people before they did, all because I believed in myself!
My husband puts sticky notes all around our house. They have different positive motivating phrases that keep him believing in himself each day that he walks out the door.
This year has been very challenging in a lot of ways, I had to stay very focused on believing in myself, because if I didn’t believe in me …. who else would?
To everyone out there … Do you believe in yourself?
If not what steps are you going to take to start believing in YOU?
Fit Chic